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Tuesday 19 May 2009 10.58pm

I have a very cute 18 month old male cat called Joey.

Recently he has started to follow me around my flat meowing so I think he is a bit lonely, so I'm looking for an older, preferably female kitten or cat for him to be friends or occasionally visit to socialise with. (I don't mean I'm pimping out my cat, I mean just for a bit of cat company - I just think he might get on better with a girl cat... not sure!)

He's always been an indoor cat but has had all his necessary innoculations etc. Unfortunately he's not been neutered (yet! - sorry Joey ;o).

I adopted him a few months ago - he used to live with two other cats but his owner was made redundant and had to rehome him and his friends. Since then he's had no other cat contact and as much as I'd like to get him a friend, I don't think two cats would fit in a one bedroom flat!

Does anyone have any suggestions that could help us? We live on Alscot Road - off Grange Road but we're willing to travel! :o)
Wednesday 20 May 2009 7.10am
Adorable! Joey looks very cuddly.
Wednesday 20 May 2009 10.15am
I dont think having a "vistor" cat will help. Till they get over being suspicious of eachother it'll be time to go home. I recommend you get another cat (if you're feeing one you might as well feed two). But this doesnt always help. He may be missing his former friends, but a new baby on the block might cause resentment. I had two cats, brother and sister, and the brother got killed. She was devastated, kept looking out of the window for him, so I got a kitten to replace him, and she hated him and ALWAYS hated him, they just never got on. So...go and know!
Wednesday 20 May 2009 11.13pm

What did you do with them? Just keep them both and let them get on with it? I have 2 cats that hate, absolutely hate the sight of each other and I don't know what to do - should I rehome one of them (though which to choose) or hope that they come to some sort of agreement with each other.

Thursday 21 May 2009 6.34am
Um...dunno! It was forever a bit of a problem. They occupied different parts of the house, met and scrapped regularly, and finally I separated them and sent them to separate homes (gulp! sob!) because we were just away too much and it's lonely for cats being on their own with someone coming to feed them for weeks on end. But there was a kind of uneasy truce for years, and they never became attached to eachother. Did you get yours together or is one a later import?
Friday 22 May 2009 8.06am
That sounds just like mine. The joke is we got the second one later as a friend for the first to stop her being lonely! At first she seemed to be boss and he accepted that but then we lost him for nearly 4 weeks (we think she had him catnapped) and after he got back he wasn't prepared to let her be boss and she wasn't going to let him. So now he chases her round to my neighbours where the cat company is more convivial and I think she is trying to rehome herself. I cant bear to think about which one I would rehome, I am very fond of both of them.
Friday 22 May 2009 11.06am
I have a cat and thinking of getting another kitten to keep him company. However, after reading the previous posts, I am having second thoughts. I do worry that they won't get on and hate each other. My cat is very spoilt and might get jealous. But I do think he's lonely from time to time.

I regret not getting two kittens from the beginning...
Friday 22 May 2009 11.47am
I think that would be my conclusion. If they havent been together from the start the second one is just an interloper. Cats are very territorial.
Friday 22 May 2009 1.11pm
I had two kittens who were sisters and one really dominated and bullied the other, making her life a misery. The bullying one was very friendly towards people and the bullied one seemed to have a grudge against the world and was very unhappy, taking it out on the local wildlife and refusing to go near people.

The bullying one died about 6 years ago and the bullied one totally came into her own and started enjoying life. She came out of her shell and became a really friendly, loving cat who was very happy and loved people. I really think that she would have had a much happier life if she'd always been on her own. Sadly she died last week at the age of 19. At least she had a very happy final 6 years.

On the whole I think cats enjoy being on their own. We might think they are lonely (because we would be) but most of them like being the top cat. If a new cat is introduced I think it can cause trouble as one will try to dominate, which can make the other unhappy.
Friday 22 May 2009 1.51pm
I've now found out the his old owners kept one female cat - who Joey was friends with - so I think I'm going to try to arrange for him to occasionally visit his old home or I might try and convince them to let me take the other cat on!! They were trying to rehome them all before when the guy had lost his job (and they've had a second baby since I took him on) so they hopefully might go for that.

Either way, that would solve all the problems because Joey has know her since they were kittens...

Thanks for everyone's comments - I'm feeling a lot less guilty about him being on his own!
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